It can’t always be about “mommy and me” time. Francisca Dennis says sometimes it has to be all about you.
There aren’t many times in life where you experience the pure joy and anticipation of bringing a new life into this world. Pregnancy can also bring with it fears, doubts, and worries. Will I be a good parent? How will I balance my schedule? Private school or public school? Will my body ever go back to what it once was? And the very important question, How do I breastfeed when my baby has teeth?
Questions and uncertainties are common. As a mother of six, I’ve asked myself these questions many times (except for the breastfeeding one — I figured that out first one out of the gate).
Once a little love bundle arrives, moms soon get settled into the cycle of feedings, diapers, laundry, sleep, and zombie-walking. It can be exhausting, to put it mildly, as our bodies and hormones regulate and our minds and daily routines adjust to the “new normal.”
Finding time for ourselves in the midst of all of this can be challenging — but so very important. It can feel altruistic putting everyone else’s needs before our own. Our partner, parents, other children, family, friends, and colleagues all want our time and attention still, but we need to be sure that we are finding time in our busy new schedule to do things for our own mental, physical, and spiritual well-being. Taking a walk alone in nature, a workout at the gym, reading a book, meditating, taking a bubble bath — whatever it is that balances you, do it!
Now is the time to take in every precious moment with our newest family member and to cherish it. Now is also the time to be gentle with ourselves, as well as with our words, thoughts, and expectations of ourselves. We just spent close to a year growing a human inside of us. Bouncing back into our pre-pregnancy jeans shouldn’t be a thought tormenting any of us.